How To build Self Confidence
Sitting at home and thinking about it will just make you feel worse. It’s not always easy to do but to help you understand what needs to be done towards building self confidence, it’s well worth using the same strategies I have used over the years towards building self confidence that in turn has helped me towards success.
Think for Today not Yesterday
Snap out of thinking about the past and the ‘what if’s’, ‘I wish I had done that’ scenario, otherwise it will mess around with your emotions and hold you back. Instead, just go and do whatever you want to get done. Be spontaneous. When you do, the feeling and results will be amazing. For example, when the sun shines lots of people are far more spontaneous and productive and will cram much more into their day by going for a walk, washing the car, doing some gardening all because their emotions are good and their feel ambitious.
It took me over two years to start my first business because everyone around me said I was ‘mad’ and put so much negativity on the idea that it held me back. Now those people wish they could do the same. The reality is they still can..
Don’t Take Things Too Seriously
The biggest reason we dissuade ourselves from taking action is because we take things far too seriously making us feel that the task is too big, too difficult and even too scary. Put those negative feelings to one side and just do it…… with a more positive state of mind your road towards building self confidence and believing in yourself will become so much easier.
Do You Really Want it ?
Think back to the last time you really wanted something… a new job, to start a new business, buy a new car or to go on holiday. How hard did you work to get it ?
Exactly ! We all do it and can do it. So when faced with something that you may fear look at it in a similar way… look at it as though it is that much sort after holiday you want.
Change your way of thinking and go for it. Eventually, taking this course of action will become natural and will help you towards building your self confidence, as you go along.
Curiosity is filled with anticipation and enthusiasm. It tends to open you up and make the things we may have feared more achievable and interesting. We all know someone who always appears to be relaxed and chilled out, with nothing ever seeming to make them anxious. These individuals have learnt how to deal with emotions and very often look at every situation as a positive one and being something that can be easily accomplished.
Job interviews, meeting the bank manager or calling your customers are things people fear. Instead, try being yourself, someone who is cheerful and willing to give something to others, e.g your new employer can benefit from your skills, your bank manager can benefit from the money he will make from your business and your customers from the excellent service you can offer. Why fear what you can offer?
Be Prepared but not over prepared
Not knowing what you’re about to do, can make your mind work over time and create unnecessary horror scenarios, make you nervous and make you feel negative.
Preparation and education can help. For example by rehearsing and rewriting your speech over and over again can pretty much help you learn it off by heart.
It can make a huge difference to your confidence if you take the time to prepare yourself. And of course, the speech and the delivery of it will most likely be a lot better too, but avoid getting stuck in the preparation phase and using it as a way to avoid taking action or for making excuses not to perform!
Failure will not kill you
Everyone has learnt from mistakes. The world has developed around this philosophy. Failure is simply something that we may have done wrong, it’s a learning experience and a way to move on with more confidence. It shows that you are someone who doesn’t sit around doing nothing instead you are someone who has courage and determination and will improve your chances of succeeding.
Establish what your strengths are and what you feel may be your weaknesses. Write every thing down and build on what is most important to you. Reward yourself on a regular basis. Take time out to enjoy what you like doing and plan ahead.
It doesn’t really matter what other people think or say about you, what does matter is YOU. That’s not to say you can’t learn from others because you can. It all takes time. Building self confidence and educating yourself never stops there is always more to learn.
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