Making The Right Decisions For You
Growth, personal development and change is all part of our lives whether we like it or not. Some people deal with making decisions easily whereas others find that having to make a career, business or major decision without knowing which direction to take is to scary, so much so that it can make them ill just thinking about making a decision.
It can be very difficult knowing what is the right decision to make or whether to play safe. During my late teens I desperately wanted to start my own business but everyone around me put be off. For years I mulled over the idea but again the security of a well paid job made it a difficult decision to make. I clearly remember when my dear grandmother was lying in a coma dying of cancer, but could still hear what the family around her was saying about me deciding to start my own business. All of a sudden she called out and said ‘don’t do it Roy’. The shock and mental pressure this put on me was as you can imagine horrendous. However, I went ahead with my instincts and took action.
If you’re standing at the edge of a river wishing you could be at the other side, looking down into the river is not the best place to focus on, instead you should focus on actually being on the other side of the river enjoying the benefits it has to offer and working out the best and easiest way of getting there.
Choosing a career
Starting a business
Whether to have children
Choosing a pension or an investments scheme
Dealing with family issues
Why is making decisions so hard?
- There are many reasons that can affect your way of thinking towards deciding what is the right for you. Sometimes it is because the stakes are high and that people feel they can no longer turn back in case they look silly or like a failure
- We feel that by making the decision could upset someone close to you.
- Fear of being judged and blamed if it doesn’t go according to plan
- Lack of experience or the fear of asking someone else for advice
- Or it can be because we feel under pressure to decide quickly
What is important to remember is to try and be very clear about what you want and what the best way is towards reaching your goal rather than what other people think is best for you. That’s not to say you should not listen to other people because they may well have some good advice to share with you.
Coaching or having a mentor will help
Taking a philosophical approach can help you make big decisions. Life is about the journey; it’s not just the destination. The older we get, the easier it is because we gain experience towards making big decisions and the thought process that is needed.
7 Tips to help you make the right decision.
1. Give yourself plenty of time to carefully think things through. Write things down so you can review them over and over again.
2. Carefully consider what the long term out come is likely to be and all of the pro’s and con’s
3. Seek advice from people who you respect and trust or someone who has been through a similar decision
4. Seek the advice from a coach or mentor to help you think things through and plan ahead.
5. Being scared is natural which is why having a mentor to assist you will make will enable the whole process much easier.
6. Trust your instincts and intuition but make sure that you have carefully consider every aspect
7. Avoid thinking you know best. Remember that you are learning and may need all the help you can get
Everything happens for a reason, what may appear to be a negative is simply a positive opportunity to learn from any mistake. No one really knows if making a decision is going to be 100% the right one. Just remember that there are so many resources available to help you and there are always lots of different ways to achieve the same end result.
If the first decsion doesn’t work, just try the next and the next until it does. Don’t give up, that’s the easy way out.
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